View of the Cold Pacifist

Arrogance is not part of my agenda, though I fall into its temptation at times, like everyone else does.  I too don't bad mouth (though I speak ill of people when I need to, because it's true.) anyone. I can be depressed, but I'm a pacifist: my thoughts are kept away from everyone else. 

But what's with the statements? 

I just wish to speak my mind, and I'll do my best to not speak ill. I'll try to be unbiased as I can, but I'm afraid it might not be the case. Bias is possible in this, but please respect these views, as I'm not pointing to a specific person, and these views are of my own. With that, I thank you.

I'll start.

I can't say or pinpoint who's who, but it's sad if P1 (Person 1) talks about P2 when P2 seemed pitiful or in need of help (though it does not show). I have no idea, but when I see these kinds of people (doing with all that they've got, just to catch attention from other people) I feel nothing but sorry for them; I feel their pain. I admit that I too want to catch everyone's attention, but it's to let them know that I exist, and they must respect me as a person and as an artist. But these kinds of people... I can't help but sympathize with them. I mean, they must've gone worse than me, so why must I laugh at their pain?  Why must I laugh or speak ill of them? Why do something that can just make them worse than they already are? I mean, I believe in karma, but karma can happen to me too. As much as I want karma to happen to them, I'm aware that a different karma would blow up in my face. 

'Why is the person like this?'
'Why is he/she acting this way?'
'What caused him/her to do this?'
'I'm sure there is a solution, but what can I do?'
'I know that it's none of my business to know what happened to them, but I feel that they need help. I just pray that someone can help them, if I'm not able to do so.'

These statements are always in my mind. But who knows? More statements might add up to this number of questions in the future. 

What am I trying to say?

There's a reason for people to act the way they are now, and there are factors that contribute to the upbringing of these people. Things don't happen without a reason. People say that things happen even without any reason, but it depends on the situation. I believe in both statements. If such complications arise, it is wise to either tone down the complications than to enlarge it enough to be immune to change, or let it be for them to figure out the problem for themselves. 

Be open to the possibilities in the situation, put yourself in the shoes of the problematic. Who knows? You would come up with other possibilities as to why the problem would grow to something that large. Would this be better than agreeing to just one option or possibility?   

NEVER assume. If someone assumes, it would just increase the tension. There are people like that: they really meant well when they say their viewed possibility in a situation, but then it would either sound pessimistic, single-minded or close-minded... as if that's the best way to look at the problem. 

Everyone has their down days. Everyone has an illness or behavour that may not be cured. But why make it worse for them, when you can help them make it better?

I'll end this journal with my statement: I'm not a person who can change people, but people say that I change others. But how do I change others? I change myself. I change a part of myself for me to welcome what comes, embrace the person who had gone such pain and needed help, and release the person with the hope of his/her betterment.